The most spoke about topic but a hardly ever practiced phrase in our beautiful Asian culture. I guess we all know what work-life balance is. So today, let’s talk about what work-life balance is NOT.
1. It is NOT spending a day or two a week coming back on time to be with the family. It is about working the balance everyday.
2. It is NOT calling for a meeting at 5:30pm expecting everyone else to sacrifice their waiting families at home. Stop being selfish.
3. It is NOT about being to only spend the weekend only off work.
4. It is NOT about going back on time and then bringing out your laptop to work at 9pm. Leave it in the office. Applicable to those who have fixed working hours.
5. It is NOT about making it back home just in time to see your kids fall asleep. It’s useless.
6. It is NOT about not having friends to hang out with so work’s my best friend for now. Remember your own self and what you are doing with your body.
7. It is NOT about working so darn hard only to have enough time to recuperate before you go crazy again. It’s meaningless.
8. It is NOT about working so hard to achieve a life balance of toys, holidays and luxuries. We can all live with less.
9. It is NOT boasting about how high you’ve climbed in the corporate ladder only to find how you have abandoned yourself, your family and kids in the process.
10. It is NOT about being home on time only to bring back frustrations from work. You had better stay outside your home then.
The phrase that families and friends are the only ones that would stand by you forever has been said over and over and over again but yet, in today’s working world, I do not think we fully comprehend what it really means or we stupidly take for granted. Think about it, if families and friends operate the way our work operates (the more time you spend at work, the better promotion/pay rise you get) how many of us will actually still have families and friends standing by our side at the end of the day with so little time and focus we invest in them.
If we keep strictly to the working hours and our life hours, we have a fairly balance work-life. But how many of us actually keep to a timeframe as such. Mark your daily working hours and life hours and see. Just remember, don’t bullshit yourself that quality time at home is more important than the actual hours itself. If that’s the case, why can’t the same logic be applied to work. Spend quality time at work (like 4-5 hours) and spend more actual hours at home.
Day
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Work Hours (9am – 6pm)
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Life Hours (Working days: 7pm – 11pm, Weekend: 9am-11pm)
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Monday
|
9
|
4
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Tuesday
|
9
|
4
|
Wednesday
|
9
|
4
|
Thursday
|
9
|
4
|
Friday
|
9
|
4
|
Saturday
|
0
|
14
|
Sunday
|
0
|
14
|
Total
|
45
|
48
|
Being where I am today, I am even more convinced that no company would give a shit about you when they’re forced to make certain decisions. We’re told, “Leave emotions aside”. So no matter how well you’ve done, how much time you’ve invested in the company, how friend you are with your boss – when the time comes, it don’t mean shit.
So….
· Why do we strive to spend so much time at work but ignore the people that cares for us the most?
· Why do we continually justify our actions of staying back at work when the ones that cares for us could very well justify why in hell should they continue to care for you when you hardly spend anytime with them?
· Why do we expect that our wives remain faithful when everyday we scandalously sleep with our work?
· Why do we expect our children to listen to us when grandparents/maids cares for them more than we do? We merely provide the funding, grandparents/maids provide the love, care, time, attention, patience to listen and play with them.
· Why do we expect our friends to help us whenever we are in need when we barely make the time to see them?
· Why do we expect our bodies to be like superman when we constantly abandon it?
· Why do we expect our families to be perfect (with the money we’ve made) when all we ever cared about was to make the money?
· WHY?
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